How To Make Him Fall In Love With You (or Find Yourself Trying) in 30 days

pexels-photo-258421November 1, 2018 

Yes, that’s right. I have about 30 days until Hunter will decide where he wants to move. If he falls in love with me by then, the chances of him sticking around are significantly higher. So how can I do this? The answer is be (or at least act like) a high-value woman.

A high-value woman doesn’t chase a man and isn’t needy or attached. She keeps her options open. A high-value woman does not tolerate booty calls and BS. She doesn’t ask “What are we?” She waits for the relationship to bloom naturally. She emulates feminine energy and radiates a love for life and herself.

So far I’ve been playing the game better than a Patriots quarterback, but the game’s not over, so I can’t lose momentum now.

That being said, is this really a game, or am I simply being strategic? Am I trying to control something out of my control? Or can my conscious choice to act and become a high-value woman, change the way the relationship blooms? Perhaps not, but I like to think I can have an influence on the matter. My therapist would tell me otherwise.

The next day…

So the whole trying to make him love me lasted a whopping 12 hours before I realized that plan was about as shitty as the horse stalls I had to clean out at farm camp in 5th grade. Let’s face the facts. He wants to move. To think I can change the course of his destiny based on my wants is pretty crazy. I have to come to terms with the fact that there are some things that are in my control, but more things than I’d like to admit are not in my control. Although you never know, it seems like he’ll be out of here before I can convince him to shave his mustache.

One week later…

Holy shit he shaved his mustache! As he opened his door, I gasped as though I had seen someone put half of a perfectly good vegan breakfast burrito in the compost, without offering it to me first. I stumbled into his house with my hand over my mouth as if I was trying to hide my reaction, but I wasn’t trying to. “Woo!” I said as I used my hand as a fan. “It’s getting hot in here.” We laughed. “That’s a great reaction.” He said with a smile.

I want him to love me, yet I myself don’t love him back. Heck, I don’t even know what love is! Anyways, I just have to go with the flow and enjoy life, but it hasn’t been easy. I now wish he had his mustache again. It would be easier to watch him walk away.

December 14, 2018

Over a month has gone by since my first journal entry about all these shenanigans. Yes, it would be nice to have Hunter stay. Yes, he’s super cute, and I like spending time with him. However, I think being in a serious relationship with him would be like trying to fit into my jeans I bought a few years ago. The idea of wearing them sounds nice, but actually getting them on and walking around would be a bitch and a half. The fantasy is significantly better than the reality of that situation. I value our friendship, but it doesn’t have to be more than that just because I like his face and company.

The moral of this post is that there is no guide for love that will 100% work for everyone because we are all unique and have different needs. Also, don’t be a high-value woman to get a specific man. Be a high-value woman to be the best version of yourself and the right man will come. Lastly, don’t try to make a relationship turn into something it’s not unless you really want to walk around in a pair of pants that make you miserable.


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“Do it for the content.” Is a phrase that often comes to mind to give me that extra nudge, so I can open myself up to more. The more I push myself to learn and grow mentally, physically, and spiritually, the more I evolve into the best and most authentic expression of myself. Along with the internal growth, I’m left with a lot of great content to share with others to inspire them create their own content/internal growth. I call this “The Journey to Become More Zen As Fuck” because that is what my life will forever be. It’s a journey, and I want to find a way to have my experiences inspire people to take risks, love themselves, seek more out of life, and have some laughs along the way.

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